Friday, November 17, 2006

Searching for balance


I was just emailing with Janet (at Just Bee-Cause) and discovered that my heart just breaks for us (women). As a group, I think most women must suffer from this malady called loss of self. Even the unique women that we could name as having done great things have had to sacrifice a part of themselves to get there. I am sure this is true of men as well but I think women allow themselves to feel it more.

I have no advise to offer at this point but I do have an abundance of empathy for anyone who is feeling as I feel right now. It DOES help to hear from others, their words and that they are feeling the same way. Misery loves company???? Janet described the self as getting smaller and smaller which perfectly illustrates my feelings. I often say that I want to be invisible so that I can go unnoticed and life won't be troubling. But that is what life is. Life IS troubling. Life is supposed to be troubling. How boring life would be otherwise. But too much of anything is a bad thing. I end up feeling out of balance and I think that might be the crux of the problem, the loss of balance. Have balance and we have more for ourselves and just enough for the rest of life.

8 comments:

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vicci said...

Annie....It is something that follows us women around....being off-balance! I wish you tons of balance as you walk through this tight-rope of LIFE....just looking at your smiling face above...always brings a smile to my face! I am thinking of you!

Naturegirl said...

I think our loss of {{BALANCE}} is due to hormones. I have myself been there and have talked it over with many of my friends and YES we agree inbalance in hormones does affect our emotional being.Ride the storm soon the *~*sun*~* will shine.. we all have been there that I am sure! Sending the
~*~*sunshine fairy*~*~ to keep watch!:)

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad you're sharing this with everyone because we all need to know we aren't alone in this.

Lisa (oceandreamer) said...

how well I know the art of trying to stay upright when things seem so out of balance. I think what helps are the hands to hold that keep us standing with loving support and a knowing word of encouragement. I am holding your hand right now!
XOXO

Maryellen said...

My trick for keeping upright is to recognize every bit of life as an Adventure. The best and the worst. It is all "life". I am not saying by any means that I am 100% successful, but when I find myself wallowing I reach for the word "Adventure" and accept where I am and what I'm experiencing. I know what I mean, and I don't know exactly how to explain it.

The dictionary defines the word Adventure: An Exciting and Dangerous Undertaking. That pretty well sums up most moments of "life".

miss*R said...

i think I am searching for my lost self, more so than the meaning of life - I can honestly say that I don't really know who I am. It saddens me sometimes. Is it because I became a mother so young, that I never found who I was before I had another soul to look after? I don't know.
so here I am, keeping you company xoxo
ya, know - I thought I only checked your blog yesterday and it seems I have missed posts - sorry xox