Saturday, December 09, 2006

A Hand Up and Self-Healing

There is no question that I knew this already but when you find yourself actually doing it, well, you are truly made aware of what a gift it is to offer love and support to others when they are most in need.

I don't think it is any coincidence that my mother passed in October, that
Kara lost her mom in November, and today Lisa has lost her mom. We, each of us, have been going through our own grief experiences but I learned something that led me to realize what I'm really here for in this blogverse. Both of these women have turned to me for support and help. They, in turn, were constantly there for me. Offering an ear for them and a word has put my own grief in better perspective. I've been berating myself for not crying for my mother. Tearing up sometimes, yes, but no great, gulping cries. But it actually makes more sense to me now. I cried my tears for mom a long time ago at the beginning of her illness. There really is no reason to cry now. She has achieved her goal of passing on to the next life and I'm positive it is a good one for her.


So, because of Kara and Lisa, it finally reached me today that I was here for the simple purpose of sending out ripples. We all send out ripples and for the most part we have absolutely no idea how our thoughts, words, or actions may effect someone in some future. It's almost a mystical experience to acknowledge that a word or action now could have consequences years from now. This awareness became so strong within me that I was impelled to change my profile. No more list that describes who I am. I now know why I am.


Life is fragile. The potential of future life even more fragile. We must always be very careful of how we act and what we say as we push our ripples into the future.

10 comments:

miss*R said...

ahh yes - the ripple effect. i agree, we have no idea just how our words can make or break a person. to be aware of every thought you have or word you utter .....great post Annie. xoxo

paris parfait said...

Lovely post, Annie, with wise words.

SombraKnight said...

Yes, life is very fragile. We should always strive to look out for one another. Just a warm smile, a nod...a gentle word can make all the difference.
This is a beautiful post, Annie...

Star said...

I'm so glad you've come to a place of peace following your mother's death. I like the way you've changed your profile--it's a lot to live up to for all of us.

Janet said...

It's good that you have some peace with your mom's death. And I do agree with you about the ripple effect of our words and deeds going out and touching people even when we don't know it. I feel very strongly that what we put "out there" is what we get back. You have, many times, touched a chord in me with your words. Thank you for being a beautiful ripple in my life's ocean.

Kara said...

Well said Annie - thank you for the ripples.

diana said...

oh what wonderful wise words... I thought about this post on my walk yesterday and wrote a post about ripples... I linked it back to you. I am new at links and I hope it was ok to link. thanks xo diana

AnnieElf said...

And here is a note from Corey who's blog isn't cooperating this morning.

"Shared knowing, shared pain, lends compassion. My heart is full of prayers for you and Lisa and Kara".

Julia said...

The other commenters have said it and I've been feeling it. Your ripples are what bring be back to your blog again and again.

Thank you, Annie.

Tammy said...

Beautiful post Annie! I'm glad you can share your loss and bring some comfort. HUGS